Dating shy males
Just when you think you know him, he’ll tell you he met Obama once and they talked for 10 whole minutes. This guy has logged a lot of hours intently listening to you, so don’t be too shocked when he throws you a philosophical curveball like “If you never reach [x long-term goal], do you think you could ever be truly happy? So yeah, one-on-one friend hangs are way more his wheelhouse. And you won’t feel like you need to be “on” when you first chill with them because, uh, have you met your own boyfriend? Loud men, in contrast, will irritate you more than they did before.Once you spend a lot of time with a man who never aggressively tries to out-joke other people or constantly offers cringey commentary during , you develop an even lower tolerance for the men who do.12. I will die on this hill, but I swear, there is a direct correlation between how rarely a guy talks about his sexual exploits and how skilled and open to your kinks he actually is.Many women mistakenly assume that being overly friendly and "easy to get" will reassure the Shy Guy. Being "easy" and laying everything out on a plate will actually make him retreat further into his shell.
As with all the other writing on this site, the points here are from a mix of my own experience and accounts I've come across of how shy guys say they think.
The first thing to do when you find yourself attracted to a shy man is to question your feelings for him.
In other words, ask yourself "Am I attracted in spite of or because of his shyness? A very close friend of mine is extremely shy, and I know plenty of other guys that are shy. Shy guys, almost by definition, do not have the balls to initiate and pursue women.
The good news is that you don't need to be an introvert to date one.
But to keep your romantic energy in balance, you will want to follow some basic rules.